On Monday we will be celebrating Memorial Day. This is a day to honor the living and the dead who have given their lives for the freedom of our country. It is a privilege and a responsibility to recognize our military heroes. However, I feel there are others who need to be honored on this day as well. These people are the family members of the men and women who have served or are serving in our armed forces.
Right now I focus upon the families who have lost loved ones. Our fallen soldiers had moms and dads, husbands and wives, brothers and sisters, sons and daughters along with extended family members and special friends. I want to say thank you to those who sacrificed their loved ones for our freedom as the nation of the United States of America. We honor our fallen soldiers with flags and flowers on their graves and this is the right thing to do. However, I think we also should share the sorrow of the families of these deceased men and women by giving them a hug of honor on Memorial Day.
“Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.”
Matthew 5:4 NIV
This particular scripture verse comes to my mind for these families this weekend. When I think about how God might bless these family members, I perceive God’s presence and anointing being available to those who are grieving the loss of a loved one. I believe God anoints them with a special strength allowing them to remember the past yet continuing to live their own lives in the present. The Latin derivative for comfort is “com” meaning intense and “fort” signifying strength. I believe God pours out a unique strength upon those who have lost loved ones through our military service.
“Blessed and enviably happy [with a [a]happiness produced by the experience
of God’s favor and especially conditioned by the revelation of His matchless grace]
are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted!”
Matthew 5:4 Amplified Bible
It takes time for me to comprehend the depth of meaning of this translation. However, I do believe that God cares for these families in a way that allows them to experience a specialized form of happiness. Through the Internet I read an article from Christianity Today that gave me some additional insight. Two quotes remain in my mind.
“EVERY SUFFERING can be blessed because it hollows out a place
in us for God and his comfort, which is infinite joy.”
Peter Kreeft, Back to Virtue.
Families who have lost men and women who were in harm’s way for our nation have a unique hollow or empty spot. Fortunately, we have a God who knows just how to fill their emptiness.
IT IS NOT ENOUGH for us … within the arena of the world’s pain
merely to know of a God who sympathizes. It is not even enough to know
of a God who heals. We need to know of and be connected with a God who
experiences with us, for us, each grief, each wound. We need to be bonded
with a God who has had nails in the hands and a spear in the heart!
Flora Slosson Wuellner, Weavings
Military families may have loved ones who were wounded to the point of death. Now these family members are bonded to God who has a spear in His own heart in a unique way. They can experience a specific bond with God through the way He helps them cope with the loss of loved ones. I like that these families have the ability to be connected with God in a personal way in addition to knowing about Him.
I also believe that we as fellow Americans have a responsibility to comfort those who mourn the loss of Military personnel. Sometimes all of us just need “God with skin on” to help us through difficult days. I believe Memorial Day can be one of those difficult days for military families no matter how many years since they encountered the loss of a loved one. Most likely, they remember their loved ones in a very personal and private way on this day. I want to seek out one or more of these families and encourage them to share memories with me on Memorial Day of the loved one they proudly sent off to serve their country. Although they knew there was a chance of loss, yet they expected their loved one to return. When they said good-bye to him or her leaving for active military service, they did not expect it to be their final good-bye. The lives of military men and women have been lost, but in a sense there are portions of the lives of their families that have also been lost. I want to say thanks to them for giving up their loved ones for my freedom.
My Reader, I encourage you to join me by taking time this Memorial Day to remember both the men and women who have given their lives for our country and the family members who have given the lives of their loved ones for our country. Salute the flags on the graves of military heroes but also extend hugs of honor to their families.