Forgiveness – Receive and Give


Our Father who is in heaven,
Hallowed be Your name.
Your kingdom come.
Your will be done,
On earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our debts,
as we also have forgiven our debtors.

And do not lead us into temptation,
but deliver us from evil.
[For Yours is the kingdom
and the power and the glory forever.
Matthew 6:9-13

lentMy Reader, is it easier for you to receive forgiveness from someone who has offended you or for you to ask someone to forgive you for offending them? Neither act is easy and both acts require humility. I will admit that I find it is easier to say “I forgive you” than to say “please forgive me”. However, it can still be hard for me to fully forgive and forget. Actually, God does not tell us that we have to forget because we can often learn from the offense we have experienced. However, we must not hold the offense against the other person and allow it to hinder our relationship with them. I found the following statement as a notation in the Life Application Bible, “You have to admit you need forgiveness before you can accept it.” That is certainly something for me to ponder!

Let’s immerse ourselves into the concept of forgiveness as we continue our exploration of the paradigm for prayer given to us by Jesus. Each week we are taken deeper into the Lord’s Prayer as we continue our expedition during this Lenten season.

And forgive us our debts,
as we also have forgiven our debtors.
Matthew 6:12

Once again, we will focus upon specific highlighted words as we unpack the meaning of this verse of scripture.

And forgive us our debts,
as we also have forgiven our

Debts and debtors are the first words we will study. These are the words used in most translations of the Bible for Matthew 6:12. The Greek word for “debts” is ophelilema and it means “that which is owed.” Opheiletes is the Greek word for debtors and means “one who owes another.” I grew up in a mainline denominational church that prayed the Lord’s Prayer saying, “Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.” Why the different choice of words? When I read Matthew 6:14-15 NKJV, it says, “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive you your trespasses.These verses are the basis for the alternate wording of the Lord’s Prayer. No matter what terms one is most familiar with, the concept we are dealing with in Matthew 6:12 concerns the need of our asking for forgiveness and extending forgiveness for our debts or trespasses or sins or mistakes or shortcomings.

And forgive us our debts,
as we also have f
our debtors.
I notice the word “forgive” in the first line followed by “forgiven” in the second line of this scripture. Forgiveness is found on a two-way street. One way I travel requires me to ask God to forgive me while the other direction of travel says I am to forgive others. Everyone sins so we all need to seek God’s forgiveness. Romans 3:23 says, “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.” So, what is the solution for my sinfulness? Jesus is the answer! II Corinthians 5:21 says, “God made him (Jesus) who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God.” One of the names for Jesus I highlighted on February 17 in the blog post What Is in a Name? was Jehovah-tsidkenu that means “The LORD Our Righteousness.” Although Romans 3:10 says, “”There is no one righteous, not even one;” when we cry out to Jesus for forgiveness He restores us into right relationship with Him again. I John 1:9 says, “If we confess our sins (ask for forgiveness), he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” (my emphasis) I said earlier that everyone sins. Now I highlight that everyone needs to be forgiven and to forgive others.

OK, I understand how I can receive God’s forgiveness when I ask Him to forgive me for the ways I have hurt or offended Him. This requires humility but I can do it! However, I notice that in order for God to fully forgive me, He asks that I forgive others who have hurt me. I may not want to do this, but I remind myself of my analogy of forgiveness being a two-way street. I must ask, “How can I expect my Heavenly Father to forgive my sins if I am not willing to forgive those who sin against me?” A note in the Spirit Filled Life Bible says, “Prayer for forgiveness is qualified by a readiness to forgive personal injury.” This is what makes forgiveness hard! No one likes to be hurt. And, if I am hurt, I often like to keep the wound open by replaying in my mind what happened to cause the injury. This really is not a healthy thing for me to do. One of the reasons the Lord asks us to forgive others is that forgiveness frees us from the bondage of our hurts. Healing comes after forgiveness. Our extension of forgiveness to the one who has hurt us also frees the Lord to work in the life of the person who sinned against us in the first place. We are to let go and let God do His work of restoration in the lives of everyone involved. When I have trouble forgiving another person, I often find it helpful for me to pray the prayer Jesus prayed for those who were crucifying Him. Jesus simply prayed, “Father forgive them for they know not what they doin Luke 23:34. In this verse, I notice that Jesus asked His Heavenly Father to forgive them. This allows me to ask the Holy Spirit to help me forgive others when I am not able to do so on my own.

And forgive us our debts,
we also have forgiven our
The use of three little pronouns four times is significant. All of these words are plural. When I consider that Jesus used the words “Forgive us our debts,” I believe that He was emphasizing that all of us have a need for giving and receiving forgiveness. I agree! However, I think that each of us also should pray this phrase of the Lord’s Prayer on a more personal level. I need to examine my heart to see what sins I have committed for which I may need to specifically ask forgiveness. I also need to ask myself if there is any person I need to forgive. My Reader, I encourage you this week to pray this prayer guideline as follows, “Forgive me my debts, as I also have forgiven my debtors.” You might also like to study on your own the Parable on Forgiveness found in Matthew 18:21-35. I like the words that conclude of this parable, “forgive your brother from your heart.” Will you follow these words of Jesus?

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